If your ex is speaking negatively about you to your children, it can feel devastating and leave you wondering what you can do to counteract their efforts. Dealing with a co-parent who paints you in a bad light in front of your kids can be one of the most challenging situations for divorced or separated parents. It is hard enough to navigate child custody arrangements as exes without the added stress of knowing that your ex badmouths you to your children. It is crucial that you understand your legal rights and options during a situation like this. Reach out to an experienced Oakland County family lawyer for more information and skilled representation.
What Should I Do if My Ex Badmouths Me to Our Children?
If you hear that your ex is badmouthing you to your children it is imperative that you take the proper steps to counteract their negativity. Consider the following.
- Stay calm: Try to stay calm after learning that your ex is speaking ill of you. As hurtful as it may be, reacting with anger can escalate the situation and leave your children confused and upset.
- Reassure your kids: Focus on your children and their well-being. Tell them that you are sorry they had to hear those comments and let them know that you are always there to lend a listening ear if there is anything upsetting them. Continue telling and showing them how much you love and appreciate them regardless of what their other parent has been saying.
- Document everything: If the behavior is seriously detrimental or persistent, document all incidents. Keep a record of the dates and times of the behavior, what was said, how it has affected your children, written communications, and more.
- Talk to your ex: If your ex’s behavior won’t stop, it is important to address it directly with them. Approach the conversation with a calm and open demeanor, expressing how their actions are affecting your children and your relationship with them. You can also write a letter or broach the topic with a neutral third-person present.
- Seek legal advice: Depending on the details of the situation the behavior could be considered parental alienation. If the badmouthing is severely damaging your relationship with your children or having an adverse effect on their well-being, you may need to take legal action. A family law attorney can offer guidance on how to approach the situation and pursue formal action if necessary.
Parental alienation can be extremely detrimental to both a child’s well-being and their relationship with their parent. You may take legal action to adjust the terms of the child custody agreement or to protect yourself and your child from this behavior. Reach out to an experienced attorney at Alan B. Cooper & Associates, PLLC for more information and representation today.